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Some People May Hurt You

By On April 4, 2024 · Leave a Comment

Parenting for emotional intelligence and psychological safety

When I picked my 10 year old up from Spring Break day camp last week, he told me another boy had purposefully kicked his leg, which was a more severe safety issue given that they were on an ice rink, with ice hockey skates on at the time. […]

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Driving in Emotional Weather

By On August 13, 2019 · 1 Comment

Last weekend as I was white-knuckling my steering wheel, going 45 in a 60 mph mountain stretch of I-70 E back towards Denver, and shrieking as a truck splashed a puddle over my windshield, I thought–this is a really good metaphor for the emotional ride of life… If I survive this (dramatic, I know), I […]

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Keep Your Labels To Yourself, Thanks

By On September 20, 2016 · 1 Comment

I found myself snapping at a cashier the other day. She was trying, like well-intentioned strangers do, to engage with my three year old. Which is great. But it ends up coming all wrapped up in expectation, and judgement, like so many of our adult interactions. So my telling of this story and reflections on […]

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A Walk in Autumn: a poem

By On October 20, 2014 · Leave a Comment

I took a walk around the neighborhood

to work out frustration and sadness

in the fall air.

 

The pace of my feet on the sidewalk and its leaves

got my heartbeat going faster.

Blowing wind against my hair and my skin and my eyes

got my tears going easier.

 

Thinking of you, and […]

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Key to Emotional Health

The Key to Emotional Maturity

By On January 16, 2013 · 1 Comment

There are many paths towards emotional health and maturity. My favorite modalities include Shadow Work®, Meditation, the Enneagram Personality System and emerging practices like Neurosculpting®. I’m sure you have your own techniques and leaders to recommend. We have many choices in […]

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FML: Worst Acronym Ever?

By On December 14, 2012 · 1 Comment

The first few times I saw “FML” at the end of a tweet or facebook post, I naively thought there must be some other meaning. I looked into it, and have now accepted that people that I know are actually saying “f*** my life”– and not just under their breath in a moment of frustration, […]

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Eight Confessions of an Enneagram Type 8 Woman

By On May 22, 2012 · 9 Comments

The Enneagram Personality System is a wonderful tool for understanding your unique drive, values, and basic fears. There are 9 types, but there are many variations within them. You can read more about all types here. I am a Type 8, the Leader or Challenger. I am […]

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A “From the Shower” Lesson of Personal Growth

By On October 27, 2011 · Leave a Comment

Today in the shower my contact got messed up. All of the sudden, it wasn’t in my eye properly and was hurting me. At first I tried to get it straightened out, then I just freaked out and tried to get it out of my eye. I yelled, then felt annoyed that Victor wasn’t running […]

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What you can Learn from your Jealousy

By On September 14, 2011 · Leave a Comment

I don’t consider myself a particularly jealous person. However, of late I noticed myself, for the first time, driving by a house that was for sale and feeling bitter that I can’t have it, cursing my poor car (which is pretty banged up but reliable nonetheless), and feeling entitled to more. “And what did that […]

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Throwing a Good Tantrum, Safely

By On September 9, 2011 · 2 Comments

Yesterday I explored the topic of tantrums. I invited you to consider ways in which you have put your “tantrum-thrower” in shadow, and ways that it comes out anyway. Here are some benefits to consciously throwing a good tantrum:

Self-awareness

You can learn a lot from an emotional breakdown. A new friend posted this […]

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