I used to be able to separate my work life from my family life pretty easily–divided by a commute and hours of the day. And my care for global issues (the environment, social justice, societal issues) were always with me, but I could generally compartmentalize them during my work day. Now, all of these three […]
Last weekend as I was white-knuckling my steering wheel, going 45 in a 60 mph mountain stretch of I-70 E back towards Denver, and shrieking as a truck splashed a puddle over my windshield, I thought–this is a really good metaphor for the emotional ride of life… If I survive this (dramatic, I know), I […]
I attended four panel discussions over the course of last week, between Denver Startup Week and a Symposium on Denver Design and Zoning, both wonderful events! I was reminded that panel discussions have great potential for good learning and inspiration, but also can be disappointing if not planned for and […]
I found myself snapping at a cashier the other day. She was trying, like well-intentioned strangers do, to engage with my three year old. Which is great. But it ends up coming all wrapped up in expectation, and judgement, like so many of our adult interactions. So my telling of this story and reflections on […]
Our role as parents is to take care of our children. And their role is to be taken care of. Simple, right? But never easy. And that’s only the beginning.
Being a mom has shown me a depth of care and compassion that I’ve never know before. And I’m so grateful to be in touch […]
Understanding and accepting our differences actually helps us to see how we are the same. Does that sound strange? It is the best way I can describe how this reality has been coming to me lately. And has inspired this second post in my series on the agreement to “not take anything personally“.
Perhaps you have encountered The Four Agreements—a book and guide for achieving personal freedom. One of the agreements is “do not take anything personally” by which Don Miguel Ruiz means that nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality. I’ve always seen this […]
It is so tempting to try and save each other– whether in a romantic relationship, friendship, coaching relationship. When you care deeply for someone, and they lose site of themselves through an unhealthy relationship, depression, or addiction, etc. you want to help! And that is what true friends do, we help each other remember who […]
There’s a big transition going on in my life right now—actually there have been several this year. But this one is of the most basic nature. It is about independence. It is about growing and maturing. And about letting go.
It’s about peeing and pooping in the potty.
My child does this now.
In my younger years I prided myself on being “low drama”. By which I meant that there weren’t a lot of skeletons in my closet, family turmoil, disasters, nightmare exes, emotional roller coasters, etc.
Now, at 30, with a divorce, single motherhood, a couple of lost friendships, a few emotional crises, and my share of […]
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