Last weekend as I was white-knuckling my steering wheel, going 45 in a 60 mph mountain stretch of I-70 E back towards Denver, and shrieking as a truck splashed a puddle over my windshield, I thought–this is a really good metaphor for the emotional ride of life… If I survive this (dramatic, I know), I […]
I found myself snapping at a cashier the other day. She was trying, like well-intentioned strangers do, to engage with my three year old. Which is great. But it ends up coming all wrapped up in expectation, and judgement, like so many of our adult interactions. So my telling of this story and reflections on […]
to work out frustration and sadness
in the fall air.
The pace of my feet on the sidewalk and its leaves
got my heartbeat going faster.
Blowing wind against my hair and my skin and my eyes
got my tears going easier.
Thinking of you, and […]
There are many paths towards emotional health and maturity. My favorite modalities include Shadow Work®, Meditation, the Enneagram Personality System and emerging practices like Neurosculpting®. I’m sure you have your own techniques and leaders to recommend. We have many choices in […]
The first few times I saw “FML” at the end of a tweet or facebook post, I naively thought there must be some other meaning. I looked into it, and have now accepted that people that I know are actually saying “f*** my life”– and not just under their breath in a moment of frustration, […]
The Enneagram Personality System is a wonderful tool for understanding your unique drive, values, and basic fears. There are 9 types, but there are many variations within them. You can read more about all types here. I am a Type 8, the Leader or Challenger. I am […]
Today in the shower my contact got messed up. All of the sudden, it wasn’t in my eye properly and was hurting me. At first I tried to get it straightened out, then I just freaked out and tried to get it out of my eye. I yelled, then felt annoyed that Victor wasn’t running […]
I don’t consider myself a particularly jealous person. However, of late I noticed myself, for the first time, driving by a house that was for sale and feeling bitter that I can’t have it, cursing my poor car (which is pretty banged up but reliable nonetheless), and feeling entitled to more. “And what did that […]
Yesterday I explored the topic of tantrums. I invited you to consider ways in which you have put your “tantrum-thrower” in shadow, and ways that it comes out anyway. Here are some benefits to consciously throwing a good tantrum:
You can learn a lot from an emotional breakdown. A new friend posted this […]
When I was a young girl, and was really upset, I would get on my back on the floor (or New York City streets) and throw a tantrum. I imagine I looked somewhat like a crab, arms and legs kicking and writhing in the air. I also made a sound effect when I would cry […]
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- I am a coach and facilitator, passionate about living in the world in integrity. I share my victories and struggles candidly through my blog and lead processes for personal transformation through my Shadow Work coaching practice.