I found myself snapping at a cashier the other day. She was trying, like well-intentioned strangers do, to engage with my three year old. Which is great. But it ends up coming all wrapped up in expectation, and judgement, like so many of our adult interactions. So my telling of this story and reflections on […]
Understanding and accepting our differences actually helps us to see how we are the same. Does that sound strange? It is the best way I can describe how this reality has been coming to me lately. And has inspired this second post in my series on the agreement to “not take anything personally“.
It is so tempting to try and save each other– whether in a romantic relationship, friendship, coaching relationship. When you care deeply for someone, and they lose site of themselves through an unhealthy relationship, depression, or addiction, etc. you want to help! And that is what true friends do, we help each other remember who […]
In my younger years I prided myself on being “low drama”. By which I meant that there weren’t a lot of skeletons in my closet, family turmoil, disasters, nightmare exes, emotional roller coasters, etc.
Now, at 30, with a divorce, single motherhood, a couple of lost friendships, a few emotional crises, and my share of […]
As babies, we are innocent, open, trusting. As we grow older we are hurt in various ways, and we hurt others. Things that are precious to us are desecrated, whether through abuse, cheating, theft, violence. We develop our own private brand of shame, and may feel bitter about the big and little betrayals that seemingly […]
“I’m not a morning person”. This is one story I’ve had about myself for much of my life. I felt sad and guilty for not being a “morning person”, because ideologically I think of the morning as being fresh, new, full of possibility. I felt like I was missing something, and that if I was […]
I took my dog Ginger for a walk this afternoon at the City Park golf course, one of the few places I can walk her off leash. She was in heaven–chasing leaves, eating snow, jumping in the air out of joy. I felt a deep sense of peace, of connection, there in the muddy […]
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