Understanding and accepting our differences actually helps us to see how we are the same. Does that sound strange? It is the best way I can describe how this reality has been coming to me lately. And has inspired this second post in my series on the agreement to “not take anything personally“.
It is so tempting to try and save each other– whether in a romantic relationship, friendship, coaching relationship. When you care deeply for someone, and they lose site of themselves through an unhealthy relationship, depression, or addiction, etc. you want to help! And that is what true friends do, we help each other remember who […]
Longing is an inspiration to change, and melt, and take new shape to find and be something truer, more beautiful. It is a core energy we experience in seeking union, romantic connection. Saying “I want” is such […]
Why do people lie? It’s been a question I’ve been working with lately. A couple of people have now caught me completely off guard by making up stories that aren’t true. Not just one-off white lies or omissions but detailed, elaborate lies over a period of time. And these aren’t “jerks” who were out to […]
As babies, we are innocent, open, trusting. As we grow older we are hurt in various ways, and we hurt others. Things that are precious to us are desecrated, whether through abuse, cheating, theft, violence. We develop our own private brand of shame, and may feel bitter about the big and little betrayals that seemingly […]
What does friendship mean to you?
I have some fabulous friends in my life who make me laugh, hold me when I cry, help take care of my son, cook for me and enjoy my cooking, take walks in city parks. They remind me who I am (a creative, powerful woman), and who I am […]
I have good reasons to feel “heart-broken” right now, for the first time in my life. I didn’t really know what people meant when they said their heart was “broken” before, only that it seemed very dramatic, poetic, and definitely something to avoid. There are so many songs, poems, books inspired by broken hearts […]
Disclaimer: I have only been married for one year, and in partnership for six. I’m not a “relationship expert”, but am passionate about loving and learning through all relationships. Romantic ones are powerful–they have the potential to hurt us and to heal us in life-changing ways. Society doesn’t teach us much about how to do […]
Do you have someone in your life who is constantly complaining that they are not supported enough, and that, more precisely, you do not support them enough? Well I do. I spent years trying to do the “right things” so that they would know that I loved them and supported them enough. I thought sometimes […]
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- I am a coach and facilitator, passionate about living in the world in integrity. I share my victories and struggles candidly through my blog and lead processes for personal transformation through my Shadow Work coaching practice.