I found myself snapping at a cashier the other day. She was trying, like well-intentioned strangers do, to engage with my three year old. Which is great. But it ends up coming all wrapped up in expectation, and judgement, like so many of our adult interactions. So my telling of this story and reflections on […]
Perhaps you have encountered The Four Agreements—a book and guide for achieving personal freedom. One of the agreements is “do not take anything personally” by which Don Miguel Ruiz means that nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality. I’ve always seen this […]
It is so tempting to try and save each other– whether in a romantic relationship, friendship, coaching relationship. When you care deeply for someone, and they lose site of themselves through an unhealthy relationship, depression, or addiction, etc. you want to help! And that is what true friends do, we help each other remember who […]
There’s a big transition going on in my life right now—actually there have been several this year. But this one is of the most basic nature. It is about independence. It is about growing and maturing. And about letting go.
It’s about peeing and pooping in the potty.
My child does this now.
In my younger years I prided myself on being “low drama”. By which I meant that there weren’t a lot of skeletons in my closet, family turmoil, disasters, nightmare exes, emotional roller coasters, etc.
Now, at 30, with a divorce, single motherhood, a couple of lost friendships, a few emotional crises, and my share of […]
Longing is an inspiration to change, and melt, and take new shape to find and be something truer, more beautiful. It is a core energy we experience in seeking union, romantic connection. Saying “I want” is such […]
As babies, we are innocent, open, trusting. As we grow older we are hurt in various ways, and we hurt others. Things that are precious to us are desecrated, whether through abuse, cheating, theft, violence. We develop our own private brand of shame, and may feel bitter about the big and little betrayals that seemingly […]
I have good reasons to feel “heart-broken” right now, for the first time in my life. I didn’t really know what people meant when they said their heart was “broken” before, only that it seemed very dramatic, poetic, and definitely something to avoid. There are so many songs, poems, books inspired by broken hearts […]
There are many paths towards emotional health and maturity. My favorite modalities include Shadow Work®, Meditation, the Enneagram Personality System and emerging practices like Neurosculpting®. I’m sure you have your own techniques and leaders to recommend. We have many choices in […]
The Enneagram Personality System is a wonderful tool for understanding your unique drive, values, and basic fears. There are 9 types, but there are many variations within them. You can read more about all types here. I am a Type 8, the Leader or Challenger. I am […]
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- I am a coach and facilitator, passionate about living in the world in integrity. I share my victories and struggles candidly through my blog and lead processes for personal transformation through my Shadow Work coaching practice.