I found myself snapping at a cashier the other day. She was trying, like well-intentioned strangers do, to engage with my three year old. Which is great. But it ends up coming all wrapped up in expectation, and judgement, like so many of our adult interactions. So my telling of this story and reflections on […]
Our role as parents is to take care of our children. And their role is to be taken care of. Simple, right? But never easy. And that’s only the beginning.
Being a mom has shown me a depth of care and compassion that I’ve never know before. And I’m so grateful to be in touch […]
Understanding and accepting our differences actually helps us to see how we are the same. Does that sound strange? It is the best way I can describe how this reality has been coming to me lately. And has inspired this second post in my series on the agreement to “not take anything personally“.
Perhaps you have encountered The Four Agreements—a book and guide for achieving personal freedom. One of the agreements is “do not take anything personally” by which Don Miguel Ruiz means that nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality. I’ve always seen this […]
It is so tempting to try and save each other– whether in a romantic relationship, friendship, coaching relationship. When you care deeply for someone, and they lose site of themselves through an unhealthy relationship, depression, or addiction, etc. you want to help! And that is what true friends do, we help each other remember who […]
There’s a big transition going on in my life right now—actually there have been several this year. But this one is of the most basic nature. It is about independence. It is about growing and maturing. And about letting go.
It’s about peeing and pooping in the potty.
My child does this now.
In my younger years I prided myself on being “low drama”. By which I meant that there weren’t a lot of skeletons in my closet, family turmoil, disasters, nightmare exes, emotional roller coasters, etc.
Now, at 30, with a divorce, single motherhood, a couple of lost friendships, a few emotional crises, and my share of […]
It’s snowing and 1 degree in Denver today. I had trepidation about the oncoming winteryness, but now that it’s arrived I am decidedly content with it. The snow falling is gorgeous, I’m thankful for the shelter and warmth I have the privilege of having, and have all sorts of yummy cozy feelings going on inside.
Longing is an inspiration to change, and melt, and take new shape to find and be something truer, more beautiful. It is a core energy we experience in seeking union, romantic connection. Saying “I want” is such […]
Why do people lie? It’s been a question I’ve been working with lately. A couple of people have now caught me completely off guard by making up stories that aren’t true. Not just one-off white lies or omissions but detailed, elaborate lies over a period of time. And these aren’t “jerks” who were out to […]
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- I am a coach and facilitator, passionate about living in the world in integrity. I share my victories and struggles candidly through my blog and lead processes for personal transformation through my Shadow Work coaching practice.