It is so tempting to try and save each other– whether in a romantic relationship, friendship, coaching relationship. When you care deeply for someone, and they lose site of themselves through an unhealthy relationship, depression, or addiction, etc. you want to help! And that is what true friends do, we help each other remember who […]
There’s a big transition going on in my life right now—actually there have been several this year. But this one is of the most basic nature. It is about independence. It is about growing and maturing. And about letting go.
It’s about peeing and pooping in the potty.
My child does this now.
In my younger years I prided myself on being “low drama”. By which I meant that there weren’t a lot of skeletons in my closet, family turmoil, disasters, nightmare exes, emotional roller coasters, etc.
Now, at 30, with a divorce, single motherhood, a couple of lost friendships, a few emotional crises, and my share of […]
It’s snowing and 1 degree in Denver today. I had trepidation about the oncoming winteryness, but now that it’s arrived I am decidedly content with it. The snow falling is gorgeous, I’m thankful for the shelter and warmth I have the privilege of having, and have all sorts of yummy cozy feelings going on inside.
Longing is an inspiration to change, and melt, and take new shape to find and be something truer, more beautiful. It is a core energy we experience in seeking union, romantic connection. Saying “I want” is such […]
Why do people lie? It’s been a question I’ve been working with lately. A couple of people have now caught me completely off guard by making up stories that aren’t true. Not just one-off white lies or omissions but detailed, elaborate lies over a period of time. And these aren’t “jerks” who were out to […]
I live in Denver. We’re going to the Superbowl this Sunday in case you haven’t heard. I’ve always enjoyed watching sports, though I don’t have teams that I feel fiercely loyal to. Maybe because I’ve moved around quite a bit. I do remember loving when the apple came up out of the hat for home […]
As babies, we are innocent, open, trusting. As we grow older we are hurt in various ways, and we hurt others. Things that are precious to us are desecrated, whether through abuse, cheating, theft, violence. We develop our own private brand of shame, and may feel bitter about the big and little betrayals that seemingly […]
What does friendship mean to you?
I have some fabulous friends in my life who make me laugh, hold me when I cry, help take care of my son, cook for me and enjoy my cooking, take walks in city parks. They remind me who I am (a creative, powerful woman), and who I am […]
I cry when I read the book “Wherever You Are, My Love Will Find You” to my son. It’s amazing how children’s books can touch the heart so deeply, with their combination of words and illustrations. I wondered why this one was getting me every time, so here are the words, and my […]
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- I am a coach and facilitator, passionate about living in the world in integrity. I share my victories and struggles candidly through my blog and lead processes for personal transformation through my Shadow Work coaching practice.