Longing is an inspiration to change, and melt, and take new shape to find and be something truer, more beautiful. It is a core energy we experience in seeking union, romantic connection. Saying “I want” is such [...]
Why do people lie? It’s been a question I’ve been working with lately. A couple of people have now caught me completely off guard by making up stories that aren’t true. Not just one-off white lies or omissions but detailed, elaborate lies over a period of time. And these aren’t “jerks” who were out to [...]
I live in Denver. We’re going to the Superbowl this Sunday in case you haven’t heard. I’ve always enjoyed watching sports, though I don’t have teams that I feel fiercely loyal to. Maybe because I’ve moved around quite a bit. I do remember loving when the apple came up out of the hat for home [...]
As babies, we are innocent, open, trusting. As we grow older we are hurt in various ways, and we hurt others. Things that are precious to us are desecrated, whether through abuse, cheating, theft, violence. We develop our own private brand of shame, and may feel bitter about the big and little betrayals that seemingly [...]
What does friendship mean to you?
I have some fabulous friends in my life who make me laugh, hold me when I cry, help take care of my son, cook for me and enjoy my cooking, take walks in city parks. They remind me who I am (a creative, powerful woman), and who I am [...]
I cry when I read the book “Wherever You Are, My Love Will Find You” to my son. It’s amazing how children’s books can touch the heart so deeply, with their combination of words and illustrations. I wondered why this one was getting me every time, so here are the words, and my [...]
I have good reasons to feel “heart-broken” right now, for the first time in my life. I didn’t really know what people meant when they said their heart was “broken” before, only that it seemed very dramatic, poetic, and definitely something to avoid. There are so many songs, poems, books inspired by broken hearts [...]
There are many paths towards emotional health and maturity. My favorite modalities include Shadow Work®, Meditation, the Enneagram Personality System and emerging practices like Neurosculpting®. I’m sure you have your own techniques and leaders to recommend. We have many choices in [...]
The first few times I saw “FML” at the end of a tweet or facebook post, I naively thought there must be some other meaning. I looked into it, and have now accepted that people that I know are actually saying “f*** my life”– and not just under their breath in a moment of frustration, [...]
The Enneagram Personality System is a wonderful tool for understanding your unique drive, values, and basic fears. There are 9 types, but there are many variations within them. You can read more about all types here. I am a Type 8, the Leader or Challenger. I am [...]
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- I am a coach and facilitator, passionate about living in the world in integrity. I share my victories and struggles candidly through my blog and lead processes for personal transformation through my Shadow Work coaching practice.